Monday, November 3, 2008

1% vs 99%


One of my gifting is the ability to look at a person's chakras and provide insights on how their energy centres is flowing, affirmation of what's going great as well as insights for further enhancement. This has been useful for my clients as it provides them with greater awareness and they are able to make changes in their lives for positive change to happen. I mean, if you know that your worries about finances and stability is causing tremendous stress to your body, you would then learn to relax more wouldn't you? Or that you've locked your heart tightly because of a past hurt to protect yourself yet it is preventing you from fully loving or receiving love, you would learn to be more open wouldn't you? Following the scan, I will then work on enhancing and balancing the chakras for the client. We may not be able to attract physical solutions but we can always feel good energetically first. Being in a more resourceful and useful state would then lead to a better frame of mind and things will click in place.

I've been grateful to realise this gifting and as it grew in its strength, have thanked the Universe cos' it's been a great tool for the work I do. Have received so many affirmations from my clients that I am now confident about using it for the highest outcome and goodness. Till recently.

When I work with someone, I always ask the person for permission to be honest with my sharing. Next, I always ask him or her how the session would be useful. If the person does not intend to do anything about the insights then perhaps it's better not to know. Finally, the scanning is always confidential. If the person decide to share the insights with someone, that's the person's choice. My lips are sealed.

Someone asked me for healing sessions recently. I naturally offered the chakra scanning as well thinking it would be useful for him. Received such a strong 'backlash' that I seriously contemplated not to do the scans for people in the future. I was accused of being negative, holier than thou attitude, pessimistic, preachy, ineffective communicator and not suitable for healing work. And because I was not considered "successful" by the person's standards (am living at home with parents), who am I to share the insights of what's not working for him. In fact, only had a chance to share one chakra.

Was so taken aback by the strongly worded negative comments, my first taste of what's it's like to be completely misunderstood, that I could not stop myself from crying. Have not cried for a very long time personally and never for healing work. Understood later that perhaps the tears were a way for my body to 'detox' the negativity emmanting from the person so that it does not stay in my body.

I've always been very conscious and careful about the words I use, my intention is always positive and because of what I've experienced in my own life, empathy is considered to be one of my greatest strength. So was very surprised by the person's reaction. The person demanded that I share the insights only if I can word it tactfully or positively. I told the person that in that case, I will not share at all. it's interesting cos' I had the person's full permission for the scan and to be honest in sharing prior to that.
It was timely that I received the following testimonial from my dearest friend Marilyn to be used for my publicity. She only speaks the truth so her testimonial is from her heart and not because I am her friend.

The Chakra Scan session with Bernadette is both insightful and healing. The insights were very meaningful and made a difference in my life immediately. Bernadette works on spiritual, emotional and physical issues and she is dedicated to assisting you harness your mind, body and health skills.

I realised that it is silly if I give up the work I do because of one person's feedback. What I'll do instead is to be even more careful and conscious of the words I use from henceforth. And trusting that I always hold people in the highest positive regards and always have the highest positive intention/ outcome for them.

5 comments:

Unknown said...

I recently attended an excellent short workshop by a medical intuitive. One of the things she said was that whenever someone reacts in that way it's often not your problem, it's their issue. And it's often a self-esteem issue.
She recommended we hold our peace and put the other person in a bubble of white light so her words, emotions etc. would not affect us as much as we hold our space, our peace, our calmness. Hopes this helps in that it tells you that it may not be all your doing. Consider next time that it may very well be THEIR issues.

Bernadette Chua said...

Thanks Patricia! Totally agree with you on this. First, I had to review and reflect to ensure that it isn't me. Then I figured it's probably the person's issue and I respected his model of the world/ reaction but not let it affect me and stop me from doing what I absolutely love!

Kenneth said...

I agree with patricia.

It is their problem, and that is the manifestation of their problem. Let their problem stay as their problem. When their problem becomes your problem, you will become their problem too.

When you become their problem, they will never be able to achieve their outcome.

Glad that you have become part of his solution! =)

Bernadette Chua said...

Very wise words indeed Kenneth! :)

Unknown said...

Yes, hmmm.... very true, Kenneth. That's an interesting one. I've learnt something. Thanks.