Lovingly Let Go

Recently, a relationship ended. When it happened, naturally there was grief. Leaking eyes that wouldn't stop and sometimes, at inconvenient and odd moments.

Yet, this ending is so very different from an ending that I experienced years ago.

Back then, I swung out of control and was in an emotional dark space. Pain was the defining reality. I was extremely bitter, sad and angry. It took a long time for me to regain my centre and balance from that ending. It was only when I decided to accept responsibility for change and started to tap on all the tools and resources available to me that I fully healed and more importantly, stayed a love optimist. And I hold dear to my heart, all the learnings gleaned from the experience so that I will turn even more into love.

You know that you have fully experienced love when you turn into love - that is the spiritual goal of life. ~ Deepak Chopra

When this relationship ended, I was no longer the old me. This time, there was no blame, accusations, pain or anger commonly associated with endings.

Instead, there was so much love, understanding and compassion present. Both parties accepted that the relationship ended because it has evolved. And yes, a healing space and time was needed but we could both lovingly let go. To aid the healing process, we utilised all the tools we know.

Today, just 10 days after the ending, our new beginning as good friends is off to a wonderful start. And in the past 10 days, I have continued with life in as rich a manner as I could. I was guest on air, met up with friends, did my healing sessions for clients and family, did a workshop and worked on developing new programmes.

This is only possible because I utilised all the tools I know, tapped on the loving support of friends (Thank you! Big Hug) and choose to stay positive.

I hope that my sharing will be a balm to anyone who has an aching heart. We need not live in prolonged pain. Not when there is so many tools and resources available to help us. It is a choice and an action. And we can heal from emotional grief so that we can enJOY life richly once more.

Sharing from a client

The following is a sharing from a client. It was written in Mandarin. Thanks K for helping with the translation!

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当我第一次听到Quantum-Touch时全然地不理解是什么。
I had entirely no idea what ‘Quantum-Touch’ was when I first heard about it.

可是心中有一块沉重的石头压力，而负面情绪急躁甚至反复忧 郁不欢，见什么都怕。
But I had always felt an immense pressure as though a heavy rock was placed on me. I was negative and temperamental till the extent of depression and had a constant fear of everything.

当我知道可以通过QT冥想克服 心理的恐慌症，就衷心地希望会好起来不须要长期寻求心理医生并吃药。
When I heard that the visualization in QT could aid me in overcoming my phobias, I had a firm seed of hope planted in me where I could gradually recover and stop the need to consult the psychiatrist or take the medication.

QT可以教导我，让我释放和接受自我。应该停止判断，接 受自己当下的真实面貌。让我明白了为什么不快乐而陷入情绪低潮。
QT taught me how to let go and accept myself; that I should stop judging myself and accept my real self. It let me realized why I was unhappy and what led me into the descending spiral of negative emotions.

可以静下心看一看天空颜色和綠色的植物，听一听周围声音，细细咀 嚼食物，
将注意力放在每一个小事物，心情自然会放松许多，用呼吸来感受自己的存 在。
I could stop myself to appreciate the color of the sky and the greenery, listen to the sounds in the environment, savor food at my own pace, and focus my attention on every intricate detail. Naturally it led me to feel more relaxed, and with every breath I felt that I lived in the present.

工作中也不会显得手忙脚乱，压力因此减轻不少, 让我可以得到清闲，心情大好和喜乐。
In my work I was confident and firm, thus stress was reduced significantly. It led to a sense of peace, a feeling of positive emotions and joy.

我要感谢你伸出 友谊之手。
I would like to thank you for extending your friendly helping hand.

感恩。
茉莉
With gratitude.
Karen.

Wallowing in Joy

I'm currently teaching Quantum-Touch to one of my aunts... in Mandarin. She's my uncle's wife and I was delighted when she expressed interest in learning it. I believe that it will help her to better the lives of her family and increase the flow of abundance.

My friend Ada generously offered to coach me to teach my workshop in Mandarin which is a relief as my aunt only speaks Mandarin and I'm certainly not fluent in it yet!

Yesterday was lesson 2 for my aunt and she's absolutely running the energy beautifully. Through synchronicity, her brother is in Singapore at the moment seeking treatment for a fracture in his arm and so my aunt has been QTing him as well to help speed up the healing process.

The lessons are held at my grandma's place and by default, my grandma's also learning it as well. Very happy for her! What's also wonderful is that my 3rd uncle who's living with her is also "soaking" up the good energy in the house whenever we practiced. He's had a history of mental unwellness and is a source of concern for my grandma. Last Tuesday during our first lesson, he happily agreed to be a client and received treatment for a headache. Last Saturday, he woke up energised and started to clean the windows and house. He's not done any housework for many many years! My heart was overwhelmed with joy when I heard this!

As for my grandma, there's also a happy shift in her energy. For about a year, she's complained of aches and pains and lack of energy. Probably suffering from mild depression as well. Another aunty and I have been QTing her. Right now, she's feeling happier and now, has the energy to go for her morning exercise sessions as well as to volunteer for 2 hours each day at the Lotus Light centre below her block.

That's why I am wallowing in joy! I am very very happy that I have a tool to help my own family. My grandma took care of me lovingly when I was young and so, I feel blessed to be able to take care of her too.

Off Anti-Depressants

One of my clients has been on Prozac for many many years. He first saw me in Sept last year when he was going through a very traumatic and emotionally draining period. Through the months, I saw him make many courageous steps to turn his life around. Besides private healing sessions with me, he also embarked on a self-development journey to equip himself with new skills.

In March this year, during our one to one coaching/ energy session, he shared that he has stopped taking Prozac as well as stopped going on drinking binges. I was delighted at his decision and more importantly at his courage to face life on his own terms.

It is July and he's been off Prozac for months now. There were a couple of times when he felt tempted to take it but he overcame it. Instead, he would either run energy himself or see me for a session.

He shared that through the years, he's always wanted to go off the pill. As much as it helped him, it was also shredding his self-esteem. Therefore, he is extremely proud of himself for succeeding in this. I am very proud of him too. He's an example of a client who takes responsibilty to change one's life. No blaming of others, circumstances etc. And this is why his life is changing for the better!