Lovingly Let Go

Recently, a relationship ended. When it happened, naturally there was grief. Leaking eyes that wouldn't stop and sometimes, at inconvenient and odd moments.

Yet, this ending is so very different from an ending that I experienced years ago.

Back then, I swung out of control and was in an emotional dark space. Pain was the defining reality. I was extremely bitter, sad and angry. It took a long time for me to regain my centre and balance from that ending. It was only when I decided to accept responsibility for change and started to tap on all the tools and resources available to me that I fully healed and more importantly, stayed a love optimist. And I hold dear to my heart, all the learnings gleaned from the experience so that I will turn even more into love.

You know that you have fully experienced love when you turn into love - that is the spiritual goal of life. ~ Deepak Chopra

When this relationship ended, I was no longer the old me. This time, there was no blame, accusations, pain or anger commonly associated with endings.

Instead, there was so much love, understanding and compassion present. Both parties accepted that the relationship ended because it has evolved. And yes, a healing space and time was needed but we could both lovingly let go. To aid the healing process, we utilised all the tools we know.

Today, just 10 days after the ending, our new beginning as good friends is off to a wonderful start. And in the past 10 days, I have continued with life in as rich a manner as I could. I was guest on air, met up with friends, did my healing sessions for clients and family, did a workshop and worked on developing new programmes.

This is only possible because I utilised all the tools I know, tapped on the loving support of friends (Thank you! Big Hug) and choose to stay positive.

I hope that my sharing will be a balm to anyone who has an aching heart. We need not live in prolonged pain. Not when there is so many tools and resources available to help us. It is a choice and an action. And we can heal from emotional grief so that we can enJOY life richly once more.