Should I say or should I not?

There will be times when you're QTing someone and you get a prompt or message. What if it's negative? Should I share it? Should I not share it? What if I don't? What if I do?

These are questions that will naturally buzz around our heads.

For me, when there is a not so useful message or prompt, I will engage in the following reflection process before deciding to share or not:

• How would it benefit the client to know? This is important because we, as therapists, may get all excited that we are getting prompts and messages and cannot not share! But seriously, how useful would the message be for the client?
• What's the client like? Remember that everybody's model of the world is different. That includes personality, need for information, beliefs etc etc. Some may enJOY hearing from you. Some are positive by nature so can positively reframe the news to make it useful for their healing journey. Some have a pessimistic outlook and any negative news just seek to reaffirm their non useful belief that life is blah blah blah, why do I always get such blah blah blah, I know always bad news blah blah blah...
• Is there a better time for sharing it than now? Maybe there might be other opportunities/ environment to share the insights which would be more conducive. Maybe the Universe would provide other more timely opportunities if it's meant to be shared.
• Is there a better way of reframing the insights? We can choose to share it as it is. Or what I've find to be more useful is to share it in a way that's useful for the client. Solution focused rather than problem focused.

Let me share a recent experience with you.

I was doing a distance session for a friend who hurt his elbow and wrist. As I was absorbed in the session, I receive an insight/ prompt about his upcoming race this Sunday. Didn't get very good vibes about him participating in the race.

I hesitated to share the information with him because (1) though he asked for the session, there's a part of him that is skeptical, (2) knowing his personality and model of the world, he'll discount what I've shared cos' not based on fact and (3) no matter what, he wants to participate in the race.

So I kept quiet trusting that if it's meant to be shared, the Universe will provide another more conducive and timely opportunity.

Two days after the distance session, I met up with him. He requested for another QT session. As I was QTing him, the prompt came up again and I decided to share it with him. I reframe it and instead of directly saying, "You can't go to the race", I shared with him that his body is really tired and he needs to rest his injury. Then I asked him how will this injury affect his upcoming race. He shared that if the injury is as bad as it is, then he'll probably have no choice but to withdraw from it even though he doesn't want to. Then I shared with him that I get a sense that if he's still not feeling in an optimum state, then participating in the race isn't useful (the word "useful" is so much more useful than "right" or "wrong". It doesn't get people all defensive. No one feels threatened or feel a need to justify which will happen if you say "right"/ "wrong").

I just shared. The decision still lies with him. He is the healer not I.