Managing Grief

My friend Marilyn taught me the difference between sadness and grief. Knowing the difference helped me through some dark moments. And it is helping me now to manage my grief at her passing.

Yes, in my heart I feel joy for where she is now. And I know that it calls for celebration rather than sadness. At the same time, there are moments still when my heart aches at the rawness of the loss. It feels strange that I do not see her when I walk into her room. Almost surreal when I am preparing meals in her kitchen and she is not there to taste them. When I am back in SG, I will have to get used to the absence of emails from her with all her chatty updates. We do love staying in touch and rarely days will go by without an email exchange.

Because I understand that it is important for me to feel joy for her, it helps in managing the grief. And when those raw moments struck, I run energy on my heart chakra to heal and balance it. This keeps me from wallowing or be engulfed in a continuous swirl of sadness and pain.

So yes, my dear friend, I will smile. Like you often say, we are blessed to have learnt tools to enable us to be resourceful and to stay joyful no matter what happens.