Lovingly Letting Go

A couple approached me for a couple therapy session. Initially when the appointment was fixed, the objective was to work towards a better understanding of each other so that their relationship could be further enhanced. They have been experiencing challenges in their relationship.

Then a day before the appointment, things happened and the couple decided to move on their separate ways, However, they decided to continue with the session because they wanted to let go of any residual pain so that they could still remain friends.

As a therapist, I am touched by their desire to lovingly let go. And that they both lovingly supported each other in the healing journey ahead. There's recognition of pain, accepting of responsibility and forgiveness. A loving ability to bless the other party's future path, with no blame, anger nor resentment.

For myself, it was a challenging situation as I know the both of them personally. But I trusted that I will be guided and that I will be able to effectively use all the tools and skills that I have acquired to be of help.

During the session, we started with sharing on our expectations for the outcome for the session. That gives us present a clear direction as well as open communication. As they trusted me and my abilities, it was easy to follow the guidance of light and love and let the process flow and unfold. First we did an energy cord cutting so that new positive cords could be built. As they did the process, I balanced and energised the chakras that needed a little boost. This allowed them to be in a calm and peaceful state as they proceeded with the session.

Next we did a clearance conversation and for this, I meditated and came up with specific questions for each party. Purely followed my intuition as the words formed. Gave the list to them for reflection and then we had the conversation. They took turns to share their thoughts and answers to the questions. As they did so, I sent energy to them and worked on the parts that they were hurting and where there's a discord of energy.

At the end of the conversation, I gave them the option whether they would like to discuss the practicalities of moving on with me as facilitator or for them to do it in private, whichever is more comfortable for both parties. They opted to do so in private. We ended the session with a closing sharing from each party.

For sure, there's still healing to be done. But what's important is that as they continue their healing journey to move forward, there's no negative energy tied in to the past. Because they could both lovingly let go, the healing becomes easier and filled with love rather than blame, anger, pain, resentment... all the negative emotions often associated with a break-up.

Instead they consciously chose to focus on the positive aspects of moving forwards. I am inspired by their example and their desire to lovingly let go.