Lovely bonding between mother and daughter

At my last workshop, a mother and her teenage daughter attended it together. It was nice to witness their close bond and the workshop further enhanced it as well as provided a new area of common interest. This was the same observation that I saw at other workshops attended by couples, siblings, parent and child or at one workshop, an inter-generational bonding between a grandmother, her daughter and her her grandson.

Here is the sharing from AC and her daughter Chae Sminn:

A.C.
The QT session with Bernie was informative and surely beneficial. The whole session held a lot of meaning as I could spend special time with my eldest daughter. Besides we also made friends with a special soul HS. After the session, I can now have the knowledge and another option on how I wish to recharge so that I can spend better quality time on the family and myself.

Chae Sminn

The QT workshop was helpful and beneficial. Not only has it taught me how to conduct QT healing, it has also broadened my awareness on energy and how to use it to benefit my daily life. Now I use it mostly to energize or calm myself, and it works well. Also, Bernadette is very caring and she took time and effort to advise us on certain problems in our personal life when we asked.

What made it even better was attending it with my mother. Together we made this interesting learning experience, and it brought both of us to a deeper level of mutual understanding. We now have something more in common to talk about, and we can help heal each other when needed. Both of us have no regrets attending it, and we definitely recommend it.

Active Aging

Life is what you make it out to be.
Life is what you create it to be.
Life is looking out for and seizing the opportunities that come your way.
Life is persevering when it gets tough or challenging.
Life is going with and enjoying flow.

After her retrenchment 11 years ago, my mum devoted her time to her family and volunteer work. Yet there are so many hours in a day that I often felt that it must be "boring' for her. Then two years ago, she signed up for training course at the Employment & Employability Institute (e2i) and soon found herself working for Universal Studios Singapore as an attraction host at the Return of the Mummy ride. It was not an easy journey returning to the workforce and I often tell her to work only if she enjoys it. She persevered.

On Sunday, I was chilling out with her at my grandma's place and I started to read the Sunday Times. When I came to the Lifestyle page 6, I had a surprise. My mum is in it!


She had been interviewed as one of three persons who have carved out a second career late in life. The interview took place several weeks ago but she kept quiet about it to surprise us. I am so proud of her that I msged my dear friends to share about it.



She persevered in her training and give her best in her job. She may be the oldest in her team yet her energy level and enthusiasm is contagious.

A close friend shared with me that she is inspired by my mum's example. I am too! And you bet, she will be a role model that I will cite to encourage my older clients that life can still be meaningful and enjoyable regardless of the age.

All will be well

Awoke from a troubled sleep yesterday. Looked out of my window and saw this beautiful sunrise. The message is clear; all will be well.

Beautiful Sunrise, Elgin Scotland (2 November 2011)

Sometimes, knowing can be a heavy responsibility especially if it is just knowing and we are not allowed to act upon it directly.

We continue to trust and follow flow.
That in the end, it will be as it is meant.
That all will be well in the manner it is meant.

6 November 2011

As I looked out of my window earlier, I saw a beautiful sunset and the moon in one sky.

Then the sunset changed and turned into one that is similar to the sunrise that I witnessed 4 days ago.

Beginning and end. Day and night. A cycle. Flow.

An effective form of hope

No one knows the exact timing of our demise. Even medical diagnosis is only an indication and there have been many examples where people live beyond their 'death prediction or sentence'. So as long as we have life's breath, we do our very best be it for our own health or as caregivers for someone else. We let go of attachment to outcome but that does not mean letting go of hope.

A client of mine engaged me recently to work on his mum who has had numerous chemo and radiotherapy treatment for her cancer over the past year. Her condition was critical when he approached me and we both knew that. At the same time, we also know that having healing sessions would provide her with relief and he wanted to give it a go.

So we began the sessions via distance healing as I am in Scotland at the moment. I keep in close contact with my clients for updates. And in this instance, it was daily updates. And the docs kept telling the family that she's in critical condition and that there was nothing more they could do for her. That they can't do this or that because it was a contraindication for each other. And that they could only make her comfortable. And then they told him that his mum only had a few more days to live.

I listened to the updates and at the same time, I trusted in the healing flow and worked with her body, mind and spirit independently of the diagnosis or death sentence. For sure, I know that it is a possibility. At the same time, only Creator and she can decide that. I let go of the attachment to the outcome and yet stay in a positive flow. For as long as she has life's breath, we support the flow of life. More than a week has passed.

Then last Friday, just before my scheduled distance session, my client informed me that the whole family received an urgent message to head down to the hospital because she was not doing well. She survived through that 'crisis' as well.

When I checked with him today, he said that his mum is sleeping a lot and not eating much. Sleeping is the body's natural way of healing. As for the food, the staff of the hospice will be making greater effort to ensure she has liquid food and soups because she cannot be put on drip.

Over the past weeks, my client has learnt to let go of the attachment to outcome and if his mum decides it was time, he will accept it. At the same time, we are also not giving up hope and will continue to do what we can for her.

For some people, they hold a subconscious belief that when someone goes to the hospice, it means there is no hope and death is certain. I reminded him that we CANNOT hold this belief. Instead, we take each day as it comes and hold a positive vibration in the meantime.

I had clients who have died. Yet, I have clients who are up and about in spite of a medical death sentence. I also know of people who have similarly triumphed over medical odds to live healthy lives.

Either way, we do our best and all we can. And that is an effective form of hope we can give to anyone or to ourselves.

Body Intelligence and Regeneration

When a client was in coma with multiple organs' failure, he also had gangrene on his feet and fingers. The doctor kept telling his family to let him go for amputation. But we believe the tissues beneath the gangrene were healing.

Last week, the nurse did cleaning up of one of his fingers, removed the black hard skin and underneath was new live flesh. On Friday, the hard black skin on his right heel came off and the heel looks so normal.

Using a blend of complementary therapies was certainly useful for him. Today he is up and about. And his fingers and legs are whole. Am glad that they trusted and hung on!

Preparing Meals

I love reading through recipe books and now with the Epicurious app on my iPhone, it's even easier to browse through. To a degree, I do enjoy preparing meals though I find it more relaxing cooking for my own meals than when it's for others.

Yet right now, here in Scotland, I found myself having the opportunities to prepare meals for others and increasingly, am enjoying it more with each meal and feeling totally relaxed.

My friend's home has a lovely kitchen with all the utensils, appliances etc that you would need.

The first dish I prepared was a vegetarian red curry. Was a little stressed cos' first time cooking for my friend M and her daughter.

The second dish was a Thai Green Curry and it was easier this time round because I relaxed and enjoyed the process.

As always, easy to whip up a meal for myself. Eggs always make me happy too. :)

Salads are easy to prepare and that's why, I am reluctant to pay $$$$$ for salad at a restaurant unless it's exceptional.

Our friend S came over for a visit and gave us curly kale fresh from her own garden. It's her first harvest and we were all so very proud of her. It's the first time I have heard of curly kale but by this time, I was totally at ease about preparing meals for others. Googled and found a recipe for sweet potato, leek and curly kale soup.

The curly kale was delicious and it made us feel very healthy too with it rich dark green.


There were some asparagus in the fridge so decided on a asparagus and orange salad. Very simple to prepare, under 15 mins.


Today, M and I fancied having Salmon for dinner. After I completed a distance healing session for a client in Singapore, I checked Epicurious for a recipe and found one that has a pistachio dressing which was unusual. Chose that and started to prepare. No pistachio so I substituted it with walnuts and almonds. Chop chop, slice slice and fry fry. In less than 30 mins, our meal was done -- Pan fried salmon with walnut and almonds dressing.

Preparing meals for others have become relaxing for me. And I am utterly enjoying it!

No one needs to live with pain

A client with Fibromyalgia came to see me and with just two sessions, her severe aches and pains is reduced by 90%.

There's such a transformational change that her mum who suffers from the same condition became open to seeing me as well.

I am delighted that they are feeling lots better! :)