What do you believe in?

The beliefs you hold will have a positive or
negative impact on your life and being.

What do you believe in?

Does it propel you forward or keep you trapped in the past? Does it gift you joy or lock you in pain? Does it let you take desired action or paralyse you with fears?

Understanding about beliefs, how they affected me and changing my limiting beliefs was one of the key transformative tool for me. That was about 8 or 9 years ago? And to-date, it remains an important tool for inner awareness and change.

 

Your beliefs are like the operating system to your brain. They are one of the primary filters that determine what you delete and what you pay attention to. They determine how you perceive and interpret your experiences.

 

Beliefs act as self fulfilling prophecies. They act as permissions as well as blocks to what we can do. They have to be acted on if they are to mean anything; therefore beliefs are principles of action, not empty ideals.

Non useful beliefs are called limiting beliefs eg "I am stupid", "I am a failure", "I'm lousy at Maths", "Life is painful/ difficult", "I'll always be a failure", "I suck at relationships".

Beliefs are never absolutely true. For every belief, there is always a counter belief.

A client of mine held a limiting belief that he does not make a good partner after his ex-wife decided to leave him. As he went on a healing journey of awareness, change and action, he formed new powerful beliefs for a new phase of life. Today, he is happily remarried with a beautiful daughter.

 

Another client of mine could not see herself progressing in her career and felt that she could only be a sales executive. After a change of mindset and beliefs held, she is now a GM. A position she would never have dared to dream about when she held onto her limiting beliefs. The change happen within a short span of a few years. A big transformative (and I would happy!) leap for her.

 

Awareness of the beliefs you consciously or subconsciously hold is a great start to understanding yourself better. And a key to making any changes desired.

 

There are many literature available on change work involving beliefs. Or you might find it useful to engage a coach or therapist to journey with you.

 

 

 

Abundance for one and all

Last Friday, I met up with an FB friend Dennis Ng and he generously offered to help promote my book Fly Free on his website. I enjoyed my chat with him and it is obvious that he is someone who has an abundance mindset. He happily shared valuable advice with me even though it was our first meeting.

In all we do, keeping an abundance mindset, feeling abundant and being abundant allows greater joy to flow into our lives and the lives of others. We remain centred on goodness and love, for self and for others. Infinite abundance for everyone.

When we hold on tightly to our ego and sense of self worth, to fear of competition and our sense that we are not good enough, what follows is pain, self-centredness and a focus on self and only self. Scarcity mentality. That there is finite goodness to be shared so one must grab one's larger share. That we must compete in order to survive and succeed. Living in this sort of world is certainly not a blissful one.

We can begin to cultivate and live with an abundance mindset through (1) awareness and (2) putting it into practice in our daily living. When I first started living this, it was not on auto pilot. Before doing an action or when I felt an emotion, I had to ask myself "am I coming from a place of abundance or scarcity?". Through time and practice, it became easier and became a way of living. 


I enjoying living and being in this abundant universe, free from competition and petty emotions. And living in abundance also means attracting a continuous in-flow of goodness. 

Abundance for one and all. 

Lovely bonding between mother and daughter

At my last workshop, a mother and her teenage daughter attended it together. It was nice to witness their close bond and the workshop further enhanced it as well as provided a new area of common interest. This was the same observation that I saw at other workshops attended by couples, siblings, parent and child or at one workshop, an inter-generational bonding between a grandmother, her daughter and her her grandson.

Here is the sharing from AC and her daughter Chae Sminn:

A.C.
The QT session with Bernie was informative and surely beneficial. The whole session held a lot of meaning as I could spend special time with my eldest daughter. Besides we also made friends with a special soul HS. After the session, I can now have the knowledge and another option on how I wish to recharge so that I can spend better quality time on the family and myself.

Chae Sminn

The QT workshop was helpful and beneficial. Not only has it taught me how to conduct QT healing, it has also broadened my awareness on energy and how to use it to benefit my daily life. Now I use it mostly to energize or calm myself, and it works well. Also, Bernadette is very caring and she took time and effort to advise us on certain problems in our personal life when we asked.

What made it even better was attending it with my mother. Together we made this interesting learning experience, and it brought both of us to a deeper level of mutual understanding. We now have something more in common to talk about, and we can help heal each other when needed. Both of us have no regrets attending it, and we definitely recommend it.

This is why I chose this path....

Now that my dad's happily retired, we had more opportunities for in-depth conversations. This morning, we were chatting about my decision to quit corporate world and follow my call (to be a lightworker, energy worker, healer etc as described by others) to do my work full time. I shared with him about a call that I received from a client yesterday and how it affirms the decision I made.

My client has communication issues with his wife. As with most marriages/ relationships, the sparks and intimacy of early courtship and couplehood has been replaced with operational existence and icy/ fiery exchanges. He approached me to do sessions to further enhance the relationship flows. I did 3 sessions over 2 weeks.

After the first two sessions, there was a change in his wife's attitude towards him plus she became happier too. Yay!!! I did the 3rd session for them on Monday. During the session, I cut the energy cords linked to any past unhappiness etc as well as enhance the relationship flows between the two of them for a happier future as a couple/ family. At the same time, I also balanced/ enhanced the chakras for the both of them.

When he called me on Tuesday morning, he shared that for the first time in many years, he and his wife had a nice conversation after dinner. It was natural and non of the usual busyness and tension was present. They both thoroughly enjoyed the time spent.

Of course, my client will continue to make the effort to improve the relationship. The energy sessions were meant to provide an added boost to accelerate the process and "clear the barriers".

When I heard his sharing, I was very happy. His is one of many cases of enhanced relationships that I have worked on. Here's another example. On a personal level, I have also done sessions to further enhance relationships between my loved ones and I as well as with friends. And yes, it always work.

Happy Holidays

A regular client SOSed me one evening. He and his family were leaving for a holiday to Hong Kong in two days' time. It was the first family trip and lots of walking with trips to Disneyland, Ocean Park etc. The challenge was that his right knee was hurting so bad that he could hardly walk.

I did a distance healing session for him the next morning. During the session, I found that the physical level was easy to clear and was confident he would feel better physically. On the mental and emotional level, that's another story. You see, his physical pain was a result of a belief that "I feel bad enjoying myself or I don't deserve to enjoy". Hence, anytime when an opportunity comes up for enjoyment, guess what happens? That's right, some sort of pain will crop up in a body part. I completed the session by working on balancing his chakras and relaxing his mind. After the session, I smsed him to give me a call when it is convenient. Follow-through with client is important and I do that a couple of times: after the session, a day after the session, a week after the session and a couple of weeks after that.

We spoke and I shared my insights with him. His first words "You are so right!". Well, being right isn't that important. More importantly, is to provide a solution for him. Now that we know the root cause, we can work on it. So after his holidays, he will be coming for a session to work on overcoming his non useful beliefs. As for his right knee, the severe pain completely disappeared!

During the conversation, he also asked for a distance healing session for his wife who was feeling stressed over the preparations for the holidays and a session for his mum who has severe back ache and hurting knees. I worked on the both of them respectively and after each session, I smsed him to let him know.

He called later that evening and his feedback was that (1) immediately after my session for his wife, she called him and spoke without any irritation. He was surprised because they had a minor tiff in the morning over the holidays and he had refrained from calling her at all. (2) His mum felt very light and her aches were gone.

For myself, I was delighted that I could be a little catalyst of joy to their family. They could now enJOY their holidays without pain nor stress. As I said to him, a holiday is meant to be a bonding loving time. So enjoy it as such. Forget about the little minor irritations and focus instead on the purpose for the trip. Happy holidays indeed!

Awakening a Loving Relationship

Received an sms last night from a client that gave me an impetus and affirmation to continue the work I do:

"I chatted with my mom for half an hour harmoniously. This has never happened before. I enjoy the chat. Thank you very much, Bernie. I am very thankful and glad that I saw you."

When T came to see me last week, it was for a chakra scan to obtain further insights for herself and not for a session to heal the relationship between her and her mum. During the scan, we discovered that there was a subconscious anger towards the mum, that she did not forgive her mum for hurting her. When we scanned further, we realised that her mum also could not forgive herself for hurting T. And the event happened when T was very very young, probably maybe when she was still in her mum's womb. When T heard the sharing, something clicked and she felt that it was the missing piece to the puzzle that she's been working hard to complete all her life.

T decided that she wants to forgive and rebuild a relationship with her mum. As such, we continued with an enhancement session in which I balanced her chakras for added well-being as well as to severe the "anger and unforgiveness umblical cord" that I saw in her solar plexus chakra. By doing that, what's not useful is gone. Instead, new loving ties can be built.

4 days after the session, T shared that when she talked to her mum, she's now more at peace. Before that, it was full of agitation and impatience. The healing process began and I knew that soon, she will begin to enjoy a harmonious and loving relationship with her mum. So her sms came as an affirmation and not a surprise. :) :) :)

For many of us, the hardest people to get a long with are our own family members. The love is certainly there except that it may have been buried beneath misunderstandings, miscommunications and misactions. Doing a cutting of the non useful energy ties and building new positive ones is useful in awakening a loving relationship. Sending healing loving energy also complements.

Doing energy sessions for my family has brought about positive changes and further enhanced our relationship. And I am grateful for this simple yet very effective tool.

A whole new world!

Had a session with a client this morning. He's suffered a gout attack and is also highly stressed by his work. As we did the session, it came to light that he's also affected by a current situation and we chatted about it.

After the session, he felt very relaxed, "lighter" and "very different". What's important is that he gained different insights and perspectives on his situation - a return to a positive state of mind. He requested that I do a session for his wife via distance after the session so that they will both be in a positive sync.

I completed the session for his wife at about 12.45pm and called him to offer my insights. At about 1.10pm, he called me excitedly to happily share that his wife just called him and her tone is very different, without the usual "hostility".

It's wonderful to know that the work we do has a positive impact on our clients. Relief from aches, emotional well being, enhanced relationships, new mindset and framework - a whole new world indeed!